I need you to understand this. Just because someone leaves your life, doesn’t mean that you lose from your life. I’ve realized this- sometimes it takes someone leaving your life to expose what it is that they really brought to your life. If you lose somebody and you instantly start becoming more successful, more peaceful, more happy then that person is only holding you back.

Have you experienced this before? Have you lost someone from your life and then felt like your life was a slingshot? Like you were propelled into a better version of your life? Haven’t there been era’s of your life that you felt enormous growth and peace after letting go of someone that you thought was giving you growth and peace? So many of us try to prove to ourselves that the people we are around us are providing something that they aren’t providing. So many of us are trying to fit people into boxes that they don’t fit into. So many of us are allowing access into our lives for the wrong people.

If you have to convince yourself all the time that someone is providing something to you that you don’t feel organically then you need to make sure that you are not lying to yourself. If you are, then you are creating deceit and discomfort in your life that you don’t need. If your life becomes less stressful, less full of drama when you lose them then you know what they really offered to your life.

If they truly brought something to your life, you would feel it. I understand how much it hurts when someone is no longer a part of your life, but you need to make sure you are honest with yourself about what people are bringing to your life. Sometimes you have to lose something to gain something you never expected. Sometimes that loss can be very helpful, I’ve realized this in my own life. So don’t lose yourself because you lose someone else. God has a funny way of teaching us things. He loves to add to our life by subtracting from our lives. He has a sense of humor sometimes. That's real. Even the smallest loss can lead to your greatest gain. Believe that.

I know that when you are holding onto someone, you are doing it because you want to see the best in people. I know that you don’t want to think negatively about the people in your life. I don’t want you to think negatively about the people in your life who haven’t earned that, I just want you to be real about them. I want you to recognize that you deserve the best in your life and that the friends and loves you need to carry you through are the ones that support you and bring out the best in your life. Trust your gut, ask those hard questions and listen to what your heart is telling you. Sometimes letting go is the only way to move forward even if it’s not easy. You got this. It’s rehab time.

It all starts with you.