Stop Wasting Time
Listen, I’m going to be straight up with you today. Life is too short to waste time on “sometime-y people.” You have to stop allowing people to come in and out of your life as they please. This on and off stuff has to be shut down immediately. You have got to stop dealing with people that are hard to deal with. If they don’t want to get along with you, you have no obligation to them. It’s not your job to put everyone in front of yourself. Everyone is worse off when you do this.
If they can’t be consistent with you, maybe it’s time that they are non-existent to you. If they can’t make up their mind on what they want to be in your life, then maybe it’s time for you to make up their mind for them. You deserve to have people in your life who fight to be in your life. You deserve to not second guess about who is a true friend in your life. This means that you have to look for patterns in people. I know that can be difficult because your good heart wants to see the best in everyone. I want you to try and see the best in people, but I don’t want you to be so sold to that idea that you become blind to the reality of some people.
If you are getting flaked on by someone consistently, then you can be sure that they are not prioritizing you. If it happens once in a blue moon, that’s okay because life happens. I'm not talking about that, I'm talking about when you start to notice a pattern in someone. When you start to see the priorities of someone show in their actions and you chose to ignore it, at a certain point, that’s on you. Don’t let your good heart blind you.
Stop allowing yourself to be the go-to person for someone that you can’t go to. Stop saving your energy for people who aren’t saving their energy for you. Like I said, life is too short to waste your own time. I want you to really think about that. I want you to take some time today to really take stock of the people and situations in your life that are sucking your energy from you. Count up the things in your life that are stealing your peace and ask yourself what you can do about removing those people or situations from your life. Would your life be better off? The truth is that we are not promised tomorrow. We are not promised next week or next year. We aren’t promised anything but right now. When you really understand that fact, you start to realize that you don’t have time. You might think you do, but you don’t. You really don’t.
Stop allowing people to steal your peace.
It all starts with you.