4 Steps to Help you Heal
There is more to your life than what you are currently going through. I have been there and I have felt like my life was over before. The situation you are in is currently making you feel like there is nothing more for your life. But, this is just one chapter in your life. There is so much more to be written.
There is more than the loss you are going through. You need to get to the next chapter and keep moving forward in your life. I can't tell you exactly what you need to do to get to the next chapter because everyone is different, but I can tell you what has helped me. You need to do what you need to do.
I will give you advice that helped me get over my road bumps. I would tell myself "What if...?". What if there is more to my life? What if I can actually grow from my pain? What is my future has my best days? What if there is something more to my life?
Those "What if" words kept me going .The slim chance that there could be something more kept me out of my struggle made me start to challenge myself and change certain things in my life.
Ask yourself "What is it in my life that is making me feel the way I feel?" If you can control that and can change it, then you should But if you can't, then you need to let it go. I would ask myself "What is it that I can do that would better my life?"
I knew I needed to better my life physically and spiritually, so I made it happen. I started slowly by changing my mindset. I'm not lying, it was hard work. But, as I started to progress, I started to feel a difference. I slowly moved to the "I can do this" stage. I started to prove myself wrong.
As I started to prove myself wrong, I started to realize that my life wasn't over and I continued to find strength that I didn't know existed. I stopped proving myself wrong, and started proving myself right.
My mindset now tells me that I can do anything I set my mind to.
The next stage you move to tells you "Dang! I'm doing more than I thought I could do." This stage showed me I can do so much more than I ever thought. Most of us live in a limited mindset where we think about all of the reasons why we can't, when we should be thinking about the reasons why we can. In this phase, your life starts to change.
You realize that you may not be in control of the world around you, but you are always in control of what you accept.
The last stage you reach is the "What can't I do" stage. Here, you start to do things that you wouldn't believe were possible. Your life gets taken to a new level here. I start to think about what I cant do.
The only possibilities are the ones that you create.
This journey of changing your mindset isn't going to happen over night. You will still hurt and you will have setbacks. But, you need to stop surrendering to your past. In order to heal, you have to hurt and you will question yourself. Just because things don't seem like they are going right, doesn't mean the path is wrong. Life is not always easy.
You have to be willing to change your mindset to see a change in your life. The journey for everybody is different. It really does all start with you.