Many of us don't work on our relationships, but we still want them to work out. Some of us have forgotten how to work on our relationship properly. Let me tell you guys five reasons relationships fail. The first reason is this: We change who we are. In the beginning of a relationship, many of us become the greatest version of ourselves. We work hard to be bright, loving, independent, and compassionate people. After we get settled into the relationship, though, we stop being that great person. We sink into the lazy versions of ourselves. You have to keep working hard at being your best you or else you just faked your way into that relationship. Don't be a faker. Keep working hard.
Next thing is this: You have to build a connection. Many people will tell you that communication is key, and while that is true, it won't matter if you have no connection. You need to make sure you're spending time with your significant other and maintaining that connection in the relationship, or else it will go stale quicker than you can even imagine. Spend time together. Spend time together. Spend time together. Some people will tell me that they don't have time because of work or whatever. That doesn't matter. We make time for the ones we love. Remember that.
Third thing is this: Don't become selfish. Many of us feel like we're being wronged in relationships because we're too focused on what the other person isn't doing for us instead of worrying about what we're not doing for the other person. We have to realize that our constant satisfaction is not the point of our relationship. We have to be there to give to the other person. Keep that healthy balance in mind at all times.
Fourth thing to keep a healthy relationship is this: Support your significant other. Many of us become the opponent to our partner when we should be on the same team as each other. Stop comparing yourself to them. Stop competing with them. You have to support them in their endeavors. You have to support them in their dreams. When nobody else is on their side, you should be. Sure, it's also important to help them be realistic. If they are sixty years old, and they want to play in the NFL, then it's okay to bring them back down to earth; however, sometimes the pressures are going to build on their dreams, and you have to be the one to make sure they don't abandon them.
Lastly, you've got to fulfill their needs. Your partner is going to have some basic needs that you have to be aware of. You should be a leader in their life. You should become obsessed with fulfilling their needs. Their need to be loved, their need to be comforted, so on and so on. Don't let them sink in the crap going on around them. You have to be their light sometimes.
Follow these steps, and I guarantee you, things are going to change for the better.
It all starts with you.
