Be Real With Yourself
Today I wanted to share a few quick words.
This post is going to be about the idea of really taking responsibility over your life. In my own life, I can remember so many different times I put unfair expectations on the lives of other people. What I mean by that is, I've expected others to be there for me in my life in ways they couldn't be.
Stop giving people positions in your life that they aren't capable of living up to. Stop getting angry when people are who they are rather than what they're not.
Let me tell you something—it makes no sense to me whatsoever that when someone breaks our hearts, we give our whole hearts to them. It makes no sense that after someone has shown themselves to be a liar, we continue to expect the truth from them. When someone has shown you that all they want to do is spread gossip and drama, that isn't a que to open up to them and give them all your information—it's a sign that you should run.
There's a quote I really like. It says, "When someone shows you consistently who they are, you better believe them. When you know who they are and you choose to see past their flaws, you are setting yourself up for manipulation and emotional destruction."
Part of taking responsibility over your own life is seeing the world realistically.
It's on you to trust people for who they are rather than who you want them to be. It's on you to trust the people around you for what they've shown themselves to be. There's another quote I like—it goes, "Nobody can break your heart twice without your permission." I think about that quote a lot, because it makes so much sense.
Every time someone betrays your trust, you are presented with a learning opportunity. So tell me, what are you going to do the next time someone walks all over you? Are you going to learn from your mistake and place your trust somewhere better, or are you going to continue letting them use you?
I like using the example of a job interview. If you're an employer with a title to fill in your company, you owe it to yourself and your business to only give your time and money to the people qualified for that title. If you're an employer, you're not going to give that title to just anybody!
When someone shows you that they aren't qualified to be whatever you wanted them to be, you've got to remove them from those positions in your head. Stop giving your heart to people who don't deserve it. Protect your peace by being honest with yourself and your circle.
It all starts with you.