Be Selfish First
Stop letting the world make you feel guilty.
It's time to start doing what's right for you. So many of us have been fed this lie by social media and society that we've got to be selfless. So many of us have been fed this lie by society that we've got to stop being self-centered, and we've got to stop getting what we deserve to be good people.
Although we all owe the world a little love, you won't be able to do the world anywhere near as much good unless you love yourself first. It's almost paradoxical, but you've got to be selfish before you can be selfless.
I don't want to give you the wrong idea—it's important to cherish your good heart. However, having a good heart and letting the world walk all over us are two different things. There's a fine line between being a good person and being used, but it's a line everyone reading these needs to understand.
Stop staying in situations that break your heart. Stop tolerating people who make you feel insecure, and stop putting up with fair-weather friends.
Why do you feel so guilty for asking for what you deserve? Why do you feel so guilty for demanding what you're worth from the world? Not everybody is good for you, and recognizing that isn't toxic self-centeredness—it's the positive self-awareness you need.
It's time to be honest with yourself. We all have people in our lives who we deserve better than. That's a hard pill to swallow, especially when it applies to the people we consider closest to us. If you've been waiting for a sign to cut those people off, here it is. I'm handing you scissors. If you've got real reasons to cut people off from your life, it's time to rip off the band-aid!
One of my best friends killed himself because he didn't know his worth. He isn't alive anymore because he allowed other people to determine how he felt about himself. Ten years ago, I promised myself that I'd never let anyone else feel that way again. I promised myself to help people understand their worth, so when I tell you that you've got to demand more from your life, I am telling you from the heart.
It's time to wake up to what you deserve. It's time to change your life for the better, even if that means saying some tough goodbye's. Don't wait around forever—no one is going to give you what you deserve but yourself. Change isn't always easy, but if you can't be honest with yourself about what you need, you'll never get it.
It all starts with you.