Be Your Own Happiness
I want to share this message with you guys today about happiness and independence. Now, of course, you need people. You definitely need people in your life, but you do not need people to give you happiness. Of course, it would be nice if people would do things that bring you happiness and you would like it. There is definitely nothing wrong with other people doing things that make you happy. The problem comes when we start relying on other people to bring us happiness and we are not able to create any of our own happiness in our lives. What this does is it puts all of the power, and not only that but responsibility as well, in their hands. That responsibility is too much to give to another person to provide your happiness.
The most common problem I hear people ask me about has to do with somebody else in their lives that they have allowed to be responsible for their own happiness. You know, someone will say that they are unhappy because a partner left them, or because someone in their lives isn't treating them the way they want to be treated or the way they used to be treated but all of that is dependent on another person that you will have no control over. If you really want to be happy then you have to start being happy by yourself. You have to be able to be comfortable with yourself. Stop bringing people around you because you are afraid to be alone with your thoughts. A lot of people have low self-worth that implores them to always keep other people around because they are convinced that they cannot be happy all alone.
Spend some time with yourself. Start to really focus on finding and protecting your peace when you are alone. Do not become so reliant on other people that you cannot be happy without them. You need to be able to find your own happiness because no matter how amazing someone is in your life they will eventually let you down if you make them responsible for your happiness because that is just too big of a burden for someone else to bear.
I know it is hard to look inward and depend on yourself. That is why so many people look to external forces and external matters to determine who they are and how they feel. We look to social media to determine how valuable we are. We look at our bank accounts to determine how happy we can be. We look at what our "friends" say about us to determine if we should give up on our goals or not. People rely on others to determine their happiness, worth, and even who they allow themselves to be. We have got to stop relying on everybody else and making them responsible for how we feel and we have to start looking inward for our own happiness.
It all starts with you.