Break Free From Your Past
You want to change, but you keep getting chained to your past.
An important truth I want to share with you guys today is that there are going to be a lot of people in your life that will tie you to your past. Funny enough, these same people are typically the ones who encouraged you to change in the first place. After you begin working on yourself and starting that process of growth these people will point out who you used to be and pretend it's fundamentally who you are at your core… Ignore these people. Don't be discouraged by these people who try to bring you down if you're on a path to recovery.
A lot of times these negative people who try to bring you down are doing it because it's easier to point out how you used to be and pretend that people can never truly change so they don't have to worry about solving the problems in their own life. They've got issues that've been haunting them, but they shut those out. If you smoke cigarettes then the last person you want to be around is someone who is trying to better themselves and trying to quit. These are the people who will offer you a cigarette or encourage you to come out and party with the wrong people because they don't want to feel alone in doing what they know is wrong.
For some people, they don't want you to change and get better because they benefit from the old you. You were someone who made them feel better about themselves, so if you surpass them, or even start getting things together then it will just shed more light on what they haven't done. So in response these people continue to say that you can never really change. They'll say, "Trent? I know that guy. He's done this and that. He's no guru. He's not capable of true growth from his past."
You've got to watch who you keep in your life when you're trying to get better. A lot of people out there will just try to drag you down and keep you in the dirt. There are a lot of people who I call "chameleons" when they're gossiping about you. They will reflect whatever the vibe or the energy is about you in the room at the time. If people are talking mess about you, this person will mention your past and how crappy it is. However, if they're around people who like you and are speaking well of you, this is when they will start connecting themselves to you. That's when they'll say things like they're proud of you, and they're so close to you. Do not trust these people. They are sharks and they will do whatever it takes to stay ahead of the social game… Even if that means tearing you down. There are too many people that can be such great friends and such great support for you to keep the sharks in your life. Let them go. I mean it. There will always be more friends to come.
It all starts with you.