When it comes to change, I would like to give you a framework for dealing with it. I want to be clear that this is not some "guru's list" of things to do to transform your life in seven days or whatever. This is not a magic trick to fix all of your problems. The reason I say that is that you will probably fail a few times. That is just what happens, and that is not a bad thing. Just don't let it keep you from trying again. The tips I'm going to give to you today have worked in my life and they have helped other people as well. So these tips are good, but they aren't magic. It's probably going to take several tries before you get it just right.
Many people ask me about true change all of the time. How do you make true change? How do you make it stick? Well first thing is first. You have to acknowledge the fact that you are an incredible human being. No matter what you went through, you are not the mistakes that you have made before. You are not your past… Too many of us define who we are based off of our current reality. I used to do that. We define our lives by wins and losses, by this is bad, or this is going wrong so there must be something wrong with me. We assume that we lose because we are just a person that was never meant to win, but that's not true. A lot of times certain things need to go wrong in order to set things up in your life for the good that is coming down the road.
Another thing is this: You cannot change without making a choice. If you want to change then you have to be willing to let go of the person that you are right now, and that is hard. A lot of us want things to change but we don't really want to make any changes. We want to keep the same friends, the same schedule, the same job even, but the odds are that one of those things in your life is what is holding you back. You probably value those things, and letting go of one of them is hard. It's just not impossible. If you really want to change things in your life then you need to find out what is holding you back from being who you want to be. Once you find that thing, you have got to be willing to let it go. Maybe that thing isn't a person or a job. Maybe that thing is sleeping late in the morning. Maybe that is what's holding you back and it is time to let that go so you can become who you want to be. I understand that letting go is hard. Change hurts, but a lot of times it is really what's best for you. So if you make the choice to change, then decide to let go of what's holding you back.
It all starts with you.
