This is a question that has been on my heart for a while now -- "Why you?" The reason I ask myself this question and the reason I want you to ask yourself this question is because we live in a culture that tells us we deserve anything and everything that we want, anything that happens to us is not our fault, and we are always the victim. Because of this, many times we think we deserve things that we don't put in the work to earn. We start to become entitled and we get frustrated when things aren't just handed to us.
Now listen to me. Don't get me wrong, I think people deserve a lot in life. People definitely deserve happiness and love and basic dignity and rights, but there are some things beyond those that we have to work for in our lives in order to get them. Not everything is just going to be given to us. If everything was given to us then we would never appreciate anything anyway. There are things that you have to work for. If you want to be respected then you have got to be respectable. If you want to have a long term romantic relationship then that is something you definitely have to put in the work for. Caring for and being there for another human being is no walk in the park. It is not just love at first sight and then happiness forever with no conflict, right? No, there are challenges that come along with anything worth having.
The main point is that nothing worthwhile in this life comes easy. You have got to work hard and struggle and overcome to get the things that you want. Why should you get the promotion? Why should people follow you? Why should people hire you? A lot of people don't even know that answer. That is the scariest part. A lot of people would answer that question by giving me a "just because." Well I'm sorry to tell you, but "just because" isn't good enough sometimes. It's only when you get solid on why it should be you that things will start to change in your life.
One of the ways to avoid this entitlement is to drop your prison perspective. What is a prison perspective? It is when you blame everything on external problems. You start to believe that everything that doesn't go your way is because the world is out to get you and the whole system is against you. You have got to drop this victim mentality if you want to start earning the things in your life that you've got to work for. If you believe that the world is out to get you and there is nothing you can do then you have already lost. Take back control and start putting in the work. Find the answer to the question: Why you?
It all starts with you.
