Choose to Heal
It's time for you to get the right people in your life.
When you have an incredible social circle, anything can happen. In life, loss is unfortunately to be expected. However, that doesn't mean loss has to bring you down. More often than not, loss is what opens up opportunities that couldn't have existed otherwise. As I've said time and time again, it sometimes takes things breaking down to build back up again. Let me tell you something—even though losing people is hard, not everyone you've ever known has been good for you. Even now, many of us have people in our lives who don't have our best interests in mind.
Mindsets are contagious, and what you surround yourself with is what you will become.
One of the hardest things to do is to let go of the things that don't benefit us. It's not easy to make changes, as much as we say we want to make them. It's also hard to find the things that do benefit us, but I would argue that doing so is very much worth it. People ask me all the time, "Trent, how do I get the right people in my life? How do I let go of the wrong things in my life?"
At the end of the day, a corrupt circle will turn into emotional weight and drag you down. The mountain isn't meant for you to carry—it's meant for you to climb. I believe that life is a mountain, and the more emotional weight you carry behind you, the harder climbing that mountain will be. Before anyone jumps to conclusions, let me make something clear—I've felt loss before. There have been times in my life I had to let go of friends I truly cared about. It hurt to let them go, but something else hurts a lot more—not making it up the mountain.
I talk about removal a lot, which is why a lot of people tend to ask me, "Trent, why do you make such negative videos? Why do you only talk about loss?" Although I'm a firm believer in keeping the right people in one's life, I made a promise to myself some time ago after my friend committed suicide. That friend had things that I know he should have let go of. My friend had negative influences that dragged him down into the depths of depression, so I made a promise to myself that I've kept ever since—to do my best to help people push negativity out of their lives.
Healing is a lifelong process.
That being said, you still have control. You have control over when you start healing, and you have control over whether you choose to actively heal your soul or not. Are you just going to sit there at the sidelines of life, neglecting to turn your losses into opportunities? Are you just going to put up with the toxic people and negative things in your life, or are you ready to transform your social circle into something that will actually help you grow?
It all starts with you.