Control What You Can Control
I know that sometimes releasing your hurt can be incredibly challenging. If you have some sort of abuse or trauma in your past it can feel like an area of your life that you never want to revisit ever, but you will never truly heal from your past if you cannot release your hurt. Maybe that looks like talking to a friend or therapist about it. Maybe that looks like writing a letter for someone or yourself, but somehow you will eventually have to revisit the pain to overcome the pain. I certainly don't claim to know everything or have all of the answers but I am telling you what has worked for me and a lot of people in my life.
If you want to move forward in your life after you have gone through pain then you need to get clear. You need to find time to think and evaluate and reevaluate your life and where you want to be in your life. You need to dissect every single aspect of your life. So I have done this in the past where I thought about my role as a speaker. I thought about my role as a father. I thought about my role as a husband, and I started to write down every single thing that was even a little bit important to me in my life and then I started to organize them by how important they were to me. When I had written all of this down I noticed that peace was towards the top of the list I had made. I talk a lot about protecting your peace because how at peace you are will affect every other aspect of your life. I realized that protecting my peace was something I had to give more attention to in my life. I had to start thinking consciously every day about how I could find time to focus on my peace. I started to spend more time alone in nature. I started to prioritize my exercise because I know that staying on top of things like that will keep me at peace almost better than anything else.
I had to start prioritizing what I had written down because at the end of the day what I had written down was what was most important to me in my life. I had to stop worrying about just what would bring me profit or what would bring me followers or whatever. Don't get me wrong, profit can be nice, but profit doesn't always bring peace or happiness. That's just facts.
I had to realize that it was time for me to start focusing on the smaller things that were completely in my control. I think a lot of us overestimate our problems and what we need to deal with so we start to make our priorities way too hard for us to accomplish, but if you can write out some simple priorities in your life and take simple steps to move forward with them then you will notice positive things in your life, I promise.
It all starts with you.