Conversation With a Broken Heart
This is a tough one. It happens to most, if not all of us. You thought that if you gave them your whole heart then they would give you theirs in return. You thought that if you added to their life then they would add to yours. You gave them all of you and they only took it. It’s so easy to believe that you are only worthy of the kind of love you have received in the past but I’m here to tell you that is not true.
Don’t let the wrong kind of love keep you from the right kind of love. Sometimes we let the pain of the wrong person keep us from the right person. Do you feel me? Maybe you let that pain convince you that love isn’t real. Maybe you hated happy people around you because you defined their love as a slight against you. Did it make you protect yourself too much? Did it take your hope from you? Maybe you stopped believing in love all together, even in friends and family. Maybe it chipped away at your perception of self worth or devalued the beauty you found in others. Maybe you let it ruin your life. It’s easy to become bitter in the face of false love. Only the brave truly love.
When you look back on the false love that stole your joy, you might think that it’s completely your fault. Maybe you think that you weren’t smart enough to see the red flags. Maybe you thought you were a beautiful enough person to deserve love and so you overcompensated to someone who wouldn’t know how to receive it. These are natural reactions to a broken heart, but I’m here to tell you that you are smart enough. You are beautiful enough. You are worthy enough. It’s not your fault. It’s not your fault, but it is now your responsibility to hold a higher standard for yourself. It’s your responsibility to start believing that you have the kind of love that you need waiting for you to grow enough to claim it as your own. Stop believing in false love and start digging for the kind of love that will make you whole. Listen to your heart. Not the fear in your heart but the calling of your heart to grow inward with someone who sees you. I mean really sees you.
You have to fight for that kind of love. What do I mean by “fight?” I mean fight your fears of inadequacy, fight your fears of vulnerability. Fight your desire to redefine love as a cheap trick. Fight the lie that you “are just one of those people that won’t find someone.” You will. Fight to believe in love. Love in your family, love in your friendships, romantic love and most importantly - love in who you are. To be seen by someone means that you have to know yourself enough to know when you are being seen. Fight for grace in yourself, laugh at your flaws and recognize that they are only flaws if you define them as such. This gives them power. Give grace the power instead. Fight for love in your life, you are worthy of the deepest kind.
It all starts with you.