Develop Emotional Resilience
Don’t be a prisoner to your emotions. Some people wake up and if they are feeling good, they will have a good day. When they wake up and they are in a bad mood, they will have a bad day. Simple as that. Let me tell you what legendary people do- I call it “F.O.F” or “facts over feelings”. Your emotions do not have to dictate your actions. This does not mean that you become an unfeeling person, basically it just means that when your emotions come up, you are able to acknowledge them and move past them.
For example, some people wake up and don’t want to work out that day because they don’t feel like it. If you use F.O.F you will work out no matter what and maybe even work out harder because you know it will make you stronger.
How do you construct more emotional resilience? I like to start my day with something uncomfortable. I like to do this because if it’s the first thing in my day and it’s something that I have to overcome, I know I can overcome anything throughout the day. Next, make sure that you are striving to become comfortable with discomfort. I know it sounds crazy but I’m actually more comfortable when I’m uncomfortable and more uncomfortable when I’m comfortable. Strange, right? It will begin to make sense to you when you start to push yourself in these ways.
Seek out the things that you are afraid of because if you aren’t, you are just waiting to be taken over by them. Run to them and face them headstrong. Put yourself in situations that you will have to overcome and watch yourself overcome them. Prove to yourself that you can conquer those fears. Don’t sit and wait for them, put your fists up and take them on.
Make sure that you have a strong reward system in place. The kind of reward that is going to carry you through your goal. This is so that when things get hard, the outcome is worth the pain. The stronger the “why” the harder you will work for it. This is how you build emotional resistance. But how do you maintain it?
You have to fight for it. Remind yourself of what the struggle produces. Remind yourself of the past times and where they brought you now. And when you're stuck in one place, it’s important to remind yourself that no storm lasts forever. Remember the storms, remember how they come and go. If you don’t feel like moving, just get up and do it. Moods don’t last forever UNLESS we keep ourselves in certain mindsets.
Lastly, what I do to maintain emotional resilience is tell myself this-
“Quitting is not an option.” Point blank, it’s just not. Don’t even let it be on your radar. Don’t bring that towel to throw in, it’s not an option. You got this.
It all starts with you.