Do Not Let Other People Dictate Your Happiness
This is one of the hardest lessons to learn. How many times have you found yourself struggling to protect your peace because of the energy or thoughts of another person? It can be a difficult thing to manage. As humans we are built to be connected with other people and to some degree it’s very normal to have your emotions fluctuate back and forth based on the people you surround yourself with, but the important thing is that you keep a firm grasp on when you are losing sight of yourself.
Remember that no one knows your story like you do. You are going to have people who think that they know what is best for you come into your life and have hard opinions but you have to learn to trust your gut. It’s okay to cut people out of your life if they do not see or respect the vision that you have for your life. You cannot function day to day by following the path that someone else has set out for you, at least not for long. You will lose sight of yourself and it can be the hardest thing in the world to crawl back to your own perspective. You have to fight to hold on to yourself and do not let anyone get in the way of that.
You are going to feel lost at some time in your life. We all do. Accept that this is the case. When you feel like you are losing sight of where you are going, this is when people try to swoop in with the answers that they think are correct for your life. I’m not telling you to ignore the wise council of people that you trust, I’m talking about the people that come in with their vision of life and tell you what to think. We all get vulnerable to this and it’s easy to fall into the lie that someone else has a better handle on what you should be doing than you do. It’s not correct. This is YOUR life.
If you have friends or family members who are pushing you in the wrong direction, it’s okay to set a firm boundary or in some cases- cut them from your life. If they do not add to your life then they are subtracting from it.
If you find yourself looking at your life through the lense of another person all the time, then you will lose sight of who you are in your own eyes. Don’t worry about what other people think of you, worry about what you think of yourself because at the end of the day- it’s all on you. I just need to be real with some of you- you can NOT let other people dictate your happiness. You will never be happy trying to live for someone else.
It all starts with you.