Do Not Lose Yourself
Right now I just want to talk about the importance of loving yourself and why it is just so important to love yourself in today’s world. If you have not noticed yet, it seems like we are being taught all of the time in today’s world by social media, and the advertisements we see on TV or in the magazines that we are just not enough. We are taught to always compare ourselves, knowingly or unknowingly, to everyone else in our peer group. We see everyone else on instagram with filters all over their life, right? People put filters on their pictures and they put filters on their life by only showing the best parts of themselves and their lives that makes it look like they are perfect and they have everything together which just makes us feel horrible because we know that we are not perfect and we certainly do not have it all together. But here is the crazy truth, they do not have it together either. They are all just as lost as us. It just looks like they have it together which discourages us.
To make matters worse we also compare ourselves to the celebrities we see on social media. Now if our friends are putting filters over their lives to make their lives look fantastic, then celebrities are putting something like super filters over their lives to make themselves look absolutely perfect above and beyond so we look and we continue to only feel horrible about ourselves. These friends and celebrities on social media just keep us farther and farther aways from loving ourselves. The problem with not loving ourselves is that we start to believe that we are worthless and so we start to settle for less in our lives because we do not believe that we deserve to have any better than what we get. We start to settle in our relationships, we settle in our jobs, and we settle in our friendships because we have no self worth. That is the problem with never learning how to love yourself.
To make matters worse, people will tell you that working on loving yourself is selfish. Let me tell you something right now and I really want you to hear this: Loving yourself is not selfish. It is common sense. If you cannot learn to love yourself then you will certainly not be able to truly love anyone else. You will end up searching for the love that you can’t give yourself to other people and the love you show them will not be genuine, it will just be given so you can get love back in return, and that is not really love. That is a business transaction. If you want to be able to be there for other people then you have got to learn how to be there for yourself. So stop comparing yourself to everyone else, and learn to love yourself.
It all starts with you.