Common sense isn't always common practice.
Because of that simple fact, I think today's message is really important. Today's message is about the importance of having an accountability system. For some of you that might look like a friend group, and for others it might look like a coach. We've all been going through tough times lately, which is why finding someone you can talk through things with is so important. In life, we often suppress our feelings. We don't want people to know what we're going through, because sometimes, it seems easier or better to let on that we've got everything under control.
The reality is, you don't have everything under control. Luckily, you don't have to.
Stop pretending everything is okay. Stop neglecting the help you need. This year, I promised myself that if I go through a rough patch, I am going to ask for help. I promised myself that if and when life gets tough, I will invest time and energy into a coach, a mentor, or a friend. Let me ask you something—do you have someone you trust, or are you bottling your emotions? Do you have a friend you can confide in, or are you facing your battles alone?
At the end of the day, we can all find support systems somewhere in our lives. That being said, it's easier for some than others. Far too often, I see people bottling their emotions because they don't feel safe sharing them with their friends and family. My solution? Talk to a stranger. Talk to someone who doesn't even know who you are if you have to. Find someone and ask them for help, because guess what? It's okay to not have it all together. No one has everything sorted out completely, and neglecting help is only keeping you from facing your problems. Bottling your emotions can only ever mean temporary ignorance, but you'll never resolve anything unless you let your feelings out in a healthy way. Listen—nothing is keeping you from facing your truth. Parts of your reality might be difficult, but like I said—you don't have to be strong enough. You just have to be willing to open up.
I'm not sure who's reading this right now, but to everyone who feels like they're in a good place right now, I have another message. Turn off your judgement. Turn off your bias. Instead of kicking the beaten while they're down, give them kindness and respect. When someone comes to you for help, help them! When someone needs you, be there, even if you don't know who they are. Together, we can create a kinder world.
It all starts with you.
