Don't Cut Corners
In life, we all have difficult seasons.
We have times we allow our pain to take the driver's seat, and then we say to ourselves, "What's the point?" We ask ourselves, "What's the point in going on, if this is all there is for me?" Unfortunately, becoming consumed by negativity is far too common. We're eager to soak in the good times, but, as many of us are painfully aware of, the same emotional reflex applies to pain. When we're going through difficult times, the way most of us deal with life is incredibly unhealthy.
Instead of pushing forward, we feel inclined to lower our standards.
When life pushes back at us, it's easy to allow our inner voices to tell us we're insignificant. It's easy to let that voice tell us everything we're not, and it seems all too clear just how much we're missing out on. Unfortunately, life is full of trials. Although pain represents itself differently from person to person, pain is an ubiquitous and inescapable part of the human experience, whether it's triggered by loneliness, financial obligations, or the pain of past relationships.
Although I have no way of knowing who you are, I do know that you're human, and if you're reading this, I know two other things as well. First, you have breath in your lungs, and with it, the second chance that comes each new day. Second, you have felt pain, and although I don't know what pain you've faced, I do know one thing—your pain is valid. Your pain shouldn't be compared to anyone else's, and you should never say to yourself, "I'm not going through that much—I should just suck it up." Your pain is valid, and until you can accept that fact, you won't be able to heal. Until you heal, you won't be able to move forward.
It's easy to feel insignificant, and it's easy to quantify our burdens. Instead of focusing on how your pain stacks up against the pain of someone else, focus on alleviating your pain. Focus on finding peace, and focus on healing, because at the end of the day, everyone's pain is different. Don't accept your pain as reality—accept the validity of your right to prioritize peace. Stop depending on the world's definition of happiness. Stop chasing what society says you need. Instead of settling for the presentation, build a reality equal to your true expectations, however lofty they may be.
In life, people take all sorts of shortcuts. Often, people prey on others, because preying on others is easier than working on one's self. Manipulation is easier than genuine effort, and putting up a front is easier than putting in the work. Don't settle for shortcuts. Stick to your path, and don't cut corners along the way—you might just lose yourself trying to find a shortcut.
It all starts with you.