Many of us keep ourselves in a prison that we know we are no longer supposed to be at. Sometimes that prison is a physical challenge. Sometimes it can be mental or even spiritual, but the point is that we dwell in places for far too long because we get comfortable with one feeling. Sure there is a time to grieve, but grief isn't supposed to last forever. Some of us get comfortable in the place that keeps us lesser than ourselves. Now I am certainly not blaming you for getting to the horrible place you may have found yourself in. You are not necessarily responsible for where you are at, but you are responsible for where you choose to stay.
You need to start making the choice to take care of yourself. You need to start making the choice to speak up for yourself and be kind to yourself when you make mistakes. We all spend so much time wallowing in our situation that we feel like we are a victim of. Maybe we feel like the world is out to get us and it is just too much work for us to bear to get out of the situation so we give up entirely and decide that this is just how our lives are supposed to be. We accept misery and then we continue to choose that same misery day in and day out.
The problem for most of us is that we are allowing fear to control our lives and the decisions we make on a daily basis. We are afraid of what other people will think, or maybe we are afraid of how we'll feel if we get what we want and we're still not satisfied with it. For most of us though, we are simply afraid of failure. We allow that fear to control everything we do because we believe that we don't have it in us to rise above our current situation and circumstance and be the best version of ourselves in any given field. Maybe we are struggling financially and we don't think we are worth a better job or a promotion so we don't speak up and ask for something better. Maybe we are struggling socially and we don't feel like we have any friends but we are afraid of social judgment or we don't believe that people would really want to be friends with us so we don't put ourselves out there and we don't try to change our circumstance.
We have to start believing in ourselves and that we are worth it to be better and have a better life than just settling for everything. We have got to start being kind to ourselves internally and sticking up for ourselves externally. Don't allow misery to be a daily choice. Start choosing a better life. Start choosing to speak up and start doing what is best for you.
It all starts with you.
