Don't Let Fear Keep You In a Toxic Situation
You know I have been thinking a lot lately about how crazy it is that I have started public speaking in my life. I know public speaking is a pretty big fear for a lot of people and that was definitely something that was the case for me. I was so afraid of getting in front of people and being judged. I was afraid of people thinking I was stupid and that I didn't have any clue what I was talking about. Lately, I have been reflecting on how and when I overcame those fears to become the speaker that I am today. Speaking has become a big part of my life and I never would have been able to do it if I hadn't let go of the fear that used to drive me.
I want to talk about how and why to get rid of or overcome fear in your life. I am sure there are a lot of ways that you can overcome fear, but there are some things that really stuck out to me in my life that I would like to share with you. Well, first of all we have to define what fear is, right? And fear to me is creating a known result from something that you haven't even experienced yet. What do I mean by known result? Well, fear tells us how something is going to be before we have had the chance to actually find out for ourselves. The problem is that fear always concludes that the result will be negative so we get too afraid to try because we are so sure that we are going to fail. Fear is saying that everything is going to go wrong so there is no sense in even trying.
Now for some of us that fear manifests itself in a toxic relationship that we might find ourselves in. You see, if you know me you know that I believe in fighting for relationships. Relationships will not always be perfect and feel just right all of the time. There will always be times in your relationship where you find yourselves in a fight or a dilemma that you have to work through to fight for the relationship because it is valuable. However, sometimes we find ourselves in a truly toxic relationship that would be better for both people involved if we would just let go of it, but we don't let go out of fear. Sometimes we are afraid of being alone, or burning a bridge prematurely, or just being thought of as selfish. So we stay in a relationship that is bad for us because fear has kept us from letting go.
To let go of fear you have got to stop telling yourself how something will end before you have actually done it. The future is not written out already. You have the potential to be better than you are now, so stop letting fear tell you that only bad things will happen if you do what you know is right and best for your life.
It all starts with you.