Don't Let Peoople Make You Feel Guilty
I want to talk to you guys today about something that has really been laying on my heart lately. I have had a lot of emails about people asking me when taking care of yourself becomes selfish. Let me tell you guys something right now, and I need you to hear this: Taking care of yourself is not selfish. You cannot allow people to make you feel guilty for taking care of yourself. Consistent self-care is nothing more than common sense. People who are making you feel guilty are mostly just people who are projecting onto you about their own lack of self-care.
I know people in my life that are so obsessed with taking care of other people that they constantly forget and neglect themselves. They are horrible at self-care. Here is the irony in that kind of mindset. If you die, or burnout (let’s say burnout because that is a lot less dramatic). If you burnout because you stick at taking care of yourself then you won’t be much use to anybody. You can only help others if you help yourself first. Now do not get me wrong here. Self-care does not mean video games, pizza, and cake every day. Having something sweet here and there can be nice but overall self-care is not about just doing things that feel good to you. Self-care is a bigger beast than that. Self-care means getting the right amount of sleep to keep your sanity. Self-care means eating the right foods that won’t make you feel drained all of the time. Self-care means taking time to yourself to do the things that bring and protect your peace.
I have talked a lot in the past about the importance of protecting your peace because it can make or break you. Protecting your peace and self-care go hand in hand. It is time for you to start making yourself a priority. Don’t keep people in your life who are sucking away your joy or sucking away your peace. You need people in your life that are going to bring you life and bring you joy. If someone makes you tired and joyless all of the time then it is not selfish to break off your constant contact with them.
Your time is valuable. It is time to start treating your time more like you treat your house. You would not just let anyone off of the street into your house because you have valuable things in there like your family. You should treat your time in your life the same way. Stop allowing the people who take your joy to justify their place in your life by telling you that you are being selfish for taking care of yourself. If they wanted to be less selfish then they could work on the relationship too. It cannot be so one-sided or else all it will ever be is soul-sucking. Take your life back.
It all starts with you.