Don't Let Your Relationships Fail
Today I want to talk about relationships in your lives, but I want to be clear about one thing. I'm not just talking about your romantic relationships with your significant other. These relationships I am talking about and the relationship advice I am giving could apply to friendships, business relationships, relationships with your family, teachers, or whoever.
First of all, most relationships fail because of a lack of good communication. Good communication is key and it is foundational to any good and lasting relationship. Now let me take it a step further. When I say communication what I am really getting at is the connection because communication is the direct tie to the connection you will have with anyone in your life. I hear all of the time that we spend more time scrolling through whatever social media app or news app on our phones than we do spending any kind of quality time communicating with or connecting to the people in our lives and that is true. It is not a very comfortable truth but it is true. If we do not want our relationships to fail then the first thing we have to do is put the phones up around the person we are in a relationship with in any capacity. Way too many of us spend so much time disconnecting from the people in our lives because we are too busy "connecting" to a world full of strangers. Now I am not saying that social media is evil and it is the source of all of our problems because I really think it is simply the way we are using social media and we need to take responsibility for that if we want to improve our connection and communication. When we do not have a connection, then we can never go heart to heart.
Do not forget this: Connection is the oxygen to your relationship. It is the oxygen to your friendship. Connection is a deeper form of communication because anyone can communicate with someone on a shallow level, but it takes going much deeper to form a real connection in your relationship with someone. To really connect with someone we have to understand that person. I am going to say it again, a connection is the oxygen to your relationship and without connection, your relationship will die. Most people never get this step and they just do not communicate well at all with the person they are in a relationship with.
Think about when is the last time you talked to someone you have a relationship with about how they are really feeling beyond greeting them shortly with "how are you?" When is the last time you sat down with the person you are in a relationship with and really spent time talking about their goals, their plans, what they care about, and if they're happy? These are the things people need to share to have a real connection with someone. Work on connection and your relationship will improve. Don't connect and your relationship is doomed to fail.
It all starts with you.