Don't Lose You Because You Lost THEM
Let’s be real -- when you lose things in your life, sometimes you lose yourself with them. Now, “them” can mean anything. This could be your job, your relationship, your friends, your habits- anything. We have a tendency to attach what we are and who we are to the things that we have in our life. We attach our sense of self to the external and when it’s gone, we wonder if we have gone with it. We lose sight of who we are in the eyes of God. We lose sight of the goals we have and the road we are walking when we attach our sense of self to the external.
Everything that comes in your life isn’t meant to stay forever. Some things are only meant to come into your life for a season just to teach you something that you needed to know. How many of you have had a friendship that may not have been the kind of friendship that lasted a lifetime but it taught you something that brought you to a friendship that will last a lifetime? How many seasons have you lived that grind you down to your last nerve and taught you who you really are? How many of those seasons brought you to a better season as a result?
You have to start looking at life like this. You can’t be afraid to be honest with people and tell them how it is. We get so caught up in trying to please everyone around us that we don’t put ourselves first. You have to give to yourself like you would give to someone else. You must learn how to say No More. You have to learn to leave situations that are bringing you down. I refuse to waste a moment of my life so I refuse to lose myself to someone else. If they can’t get with the program then they aren’t for my life, and it’s okay for me to tell them that. Your people are out there, and it does you no good to lie to the wrong people and tell yourself that they are the right people. It does no good to lie to yourself about the wrong job when you could have the right job. It does no good to keep yourself in relationships that you have to convince yourself is the right relationship. The right one is out there. If you feel you're losing yourself you have to fight for you because no one else will.
Sometimes the things that we want aren't the things that we need and I know that’s hard to hear. If you let people who gave up on their dreams tell you to give up on yours, then you aren’t keeping the right company. Just because they lost sight of themselves doesn’t mean that you need to lose sight of yourself. Fight for who you are.
It all starts with you.