Don't Lose Yourself Pleasing Others
Today I was watching the combine and if you don’t know what the combine is, it is where these potential NFL players show off what they can do so they can hopefully be drafted. Another one of my friends was also watching this and he hit me up and said, “Man, do you think you can still run a four three?” And I thought about that for a second. There was a part of me that wanted to focus on who I used to be, but instead I started to focus on what I can do. I thought, “I may not be able to run a four three, but I know what I can do, I know what I can control.” I can always work towards being the best me no matter what the circumstances are in my life, and being the best me does not necessarily mean that I have to be able to run like I could when I was in the NFL. I might not be where I want to be yet but I am under construction.
For a lot of you guys reading this you are probably under construction right now. Getting better is a process and it does not happen overnight. You will always run into people that will judge you. Maybe you judge yourself because you are not where you want to be but I want you to appreciate yourself and appreciate where you are headed because being under construction is its own endeavor in the first place. A lot of people don’t push themselves to be under construction because they are afraid that they could never get better so why even bother in the first place. So if you are trying in the first place, and you are under construction at all then I want you to know that that is something you should be proud of.
Do not let other people convince you that you can’t be the best version of yourself because of who you used to be in your past or because of who you are now versus who you want to become. There is always a road to get to whoever you want to become. Sometimes that road is long and sometimes that road is short, but the point is that you will always have the possibility to make it to your goal if you do not give up and you do not let other people convince you that you do not have what it takes.
Lastly I want to remind you that it is not selfish to work on yourself to be better. Some people will try to bring you down by telling you that working on yourself is selfish but that is just not true. If you want to be a better friend, better family member, more responsible and reliable person in general then you have to work on yourself, and that is hardly selfish. Don’t let your desire to please those haters keep you from your goals.
It all starts with you.