Don't Measure Against Perfection
What's keeping you from your goals?
At first you might be tempted to say, "A lot, Trent. There's a lot keeping me from my goals." Trust me—I've been there. Life happens, and none of us are capable of avoiding pain. Life happens, but the real answer to the question I asked is deceptively simple. There's a disease in the world that I think about 70% of the world have been infected with. It's not COVID—it's imposter syndrome. We live in a judgmental world, and as a result, many of us feel as though we're frauds. Let me tell you something—you deserve every good thing in your life. I think that you and I both know you've worked hard for the good thing sin your life, so I have another question for you.
When you look around you, why do you see nothing but your imperfections?
Far too often, we let how we operate be determined by external opinions. We allow people to tear us down, but let me be clear—I've said this time and time again, because I think it's extremely important. No one can tear you down without your permission. No one has control over your reaction—they only have control over the stimulus. No one has control of the power inside you, so next time someone seems to be discouraging you, I want you to remember how incredible you are. I want you to remember that no one can hurt you but yourself.
Curing your imposter syndrome sounds like a job easier said than done, and I'll be honest with you—it isn't easy. It isn't easy to redefine ourselves for ourselves, and it's difficult to be loyal to our visions when we're in the habit of being loyal to the opinions of those who couldn't care less about us. Listen—we've all got imperfections. Every single one of us has been a hypocrite at least once, and every single one of us has made mistakes. Do you know why? It's because you're human. If you wish to continue moving forward, self-improvement is definitely important. However, you also have to remember the flip-side of that coin—perfection is a fantasy, and if you can't appreciate how far you've come, you'll burn out before you can get any further. If you can't stop saying, "I don't deserve this," or "I don't deserve that," you'll never have anything to be proud of.
If you feel or have ever felt like you're not enough, I'm here to tell you that you are. I'm here to tell you that you're doing great, even when it feels like the odds are towering above you. Don't count yourself out just yet.
It all starts with you.