Don't Quit on Yourself Because They Quit on You
Listen, I want to be real with you guys right from the start of this message today, y’all. I am going to start with some straight facts even though I know it can be a hard thing to hear. Not everyone in your life is always going to be there for you. There will be people in your life that you will expect to be there through thick and thin and then there will be the times of trouble that come along and those same people will quit on you. I need you to understand that and believe that. Everybody ain’t praying for you to make it. Everybody ain’t pushing for you to be the best version of yourself that you possibly can be. There will be people in your life who want to see you do good, just not better than them. Because the kicker is, in their mind, your win means their loss. In their mind your progression equals their regression. In their mind your success equals their failure. That is just straight facts. I told y’all I am just going to be real with you guys today. Some people are in a secret competition with you and you do not even know it. Your setbacks bring them joy, and you becoming better makes them bitter. That is why they can’t be happy for your happiness.
Energy don’t lie. Trust the way they act when you tell them good news. Do they get excited and cheer for you and make you feel like you have done something special, or do they shrug it off and move on? There is a reason why some people in your life who you thought were your friends don’t join in and celebrate with you. It has a lot to do with the fact that they do not believe that it is ultimately good. They think something ultimately good for you only outlines that they are falling behind. You do not want to keep people in your life who are going to make you feel guilty for having good news to share. The moment you realize that you feel guilty for doing good things and good things coming into your life as a result should be the moment you realize that the friend you have making your feel that way isn’t the friend you should want in your life in the first place.
Now, like I said before, a lot of these people who pretend to be your friends will quit on you when times get tough, or when an argument gets out of hand. The most important thing to remember is that you cannot let their energy allow you to quit on yourself. Just because they leave and give up on the friendship does not mean that you did something wrong. Do not let that keep you from pushing forward and working hard. Do not allow yourself to be bitter and feel sorry for yourself. If anything you can feel sorry for them because they quit on someone who would have never done that to them.
It all starts with you.