Right now I know a lot of us are dealing with difficulty. I know that every single one of us is dealing with things that can bring us down from time to time in our lives. And I want to be very clear on this message because I do not want you to take me the wrong way, but if you are staying in the place that keeps you sad after you have had time to grieve then it is probably on you. Now hear me again, because I am certainly not saying that it is your fault that you got hurt. I am not saying that it is your fault if somebody broke your heart. I am not saying it is your fault that circumstances have put you in a bind and you do not know what else to do. It is not your choice to be put in this bad situation, but it is your choice whether or not you want to stay there. If you want to push past the hurt and move forward in your life then it all starts with a choice to work harder, and to be the best version of yourself that you possibly can be even though you have been dealt a bad hand. Making the best of a bad situation is the first step to moving on and healing past whatever pain you have dealt with.

I know that being sad can be an attractive option because we get used to where we are at. Sometimes sadness has been the choice we have stayed in for a really long time and pushing ourselves to get out of it means leaving what we know for the dangerous world of what we do not know. Maybe the sadness can take the form of a bad relationship that we really should not be in anymore and it is time for us to move on and leave this relationship but leaving this relationship would mean leaving what you know, even if what you know is very bad. Leaving into what we do not know can seem so much worse and so much scarier, but it is not. It is often the best option.

If we want to heal in our lives then we have got to be willing to let go of the thing that has been holding us back and hurting us. Healing cannot take place if we can’t let go of the thing that is biting us over and over again. If we remain in the struggle that has been causing us so much harm then we will never be able to push forward and move on.

Part of letting go is a simple leap of faith. You have to trust the process of healing and know that you will not always be sure about the future, but if you can accept that and you can let go of the sadness and let go of the struggle and welcome the future and the unknown then healing can start to take place, and radical change becomes possible.

It all starts with you.