When you get down on life, you are going to see who is down for you. I just have to be real. Everyone in your circle might not be in your corner. Everybody you call a friend might not be a friend. People pretend well. Don't confuse the length of the friendship with the strength of the friendship. What's the point of having people in your life that aren't for you or if they don't have your back? Is it because you are loyal? That's not loyalty, that's stupidity. Be loyal to yourself first, and be loyal to those who stand up for you when you aren't there to stand up for yourself.
Fake people will always give you real reasons to cut them off. If the people around you don't want to see you win, you don't have a circle - you have a cage. Just because they're standing next to you doesn't mean they want the best for you. Just because they smile to your face doesn't mean they have your back. I know that you might be thinking that if you've had a friend for a long time, you can't just drop something that has so much time invested in it, but if time is the only thing you have invested then that's the easiest thing to lose. What about love? What about support? If you lose them are you losing your support? Are they pushing you forward or holding you back? No one can tell you that but you. In your heart you know the people that are there for you. You see their reactions to your success and failure and you know which ones are genuine. You know the patterns that they've shown you over time.
It's not wrong to push the wrong people away. I know this is a hard concept to hear, because it's not comfortable but I promise you there is a group of people out there that are waiting to praise your triumphs, people out there that are happy at their core that someone like you is in their life, but you'll never meet them if you're stuck with people that are holding you back. This is your life, not your friends. Real situations teach us who is really there for you and if someone can't be there for you when you're at the bottom, they don't get to celebrate with you when you're on top. Let's get it.
It all starts with you.
