Find Meaning In the Moment
One of the worst things about going through a battle is the feeling of being alone. Just know that anything you are going through, you're never alone in it. I struggle with these things as well. I don't want to be insensitive because when you're down, it is hard to choose this, but- there are two types of people in this world.
There are the kind of people who lose things and then lose themselves, and there are those who lose things and find themselves. I notice when I am going through a hard time, I can ask myself- "does this have to be a bad time?" And "who benefits from me dwelling on this?" See, you can choose not to program your life with failure, and with depression. Listen, I'm not saying it's easy, and I don't want to be rude, but seeing the light and being the light in the darkest situations is a choice. Once you know that, you can find meaning in the struggle.
Don't let me tell you what your meaning is, that's for you to know and find out. When you apply meaning to your struggle, this is when you are able to live your life in a more powerful way. Take me for example. I just want to be real with you - the reason I have been able to do what I do for the last ten years is because of the meaning that I have associated with this journey.
You can rise or fall or sink or swim, it's your choice. There's no perfect algorithm to find that strength within you, but there are a few things that help me. The first is awareness. You have to understand your standards. It's so easy to not be aware of the situations that we are in or our emotions in the moment. Understand what you want out of your life and the standards you've set for what you want out of life. The second is acceptance. With football, I didn't want to accept that it was over for me. These past few years have been tough for us all and I think that we could all use acceptance of our new circumstances.
The way I see it, I don't want to be the same Trent I was a year ago or two years ago. I want to grow and continue to evolve! I don't want to be the same guy I was before a past relationship or friendship failed- I don't want to be the same. So even if you feel like your world is crumbling, and nothing will be the same - you have the choice to see that as a positive or a negative thing in your life and how you view it is going to determine the outcome you experience from it. Your Identity is not tied to things, or people, or your job, or your title. You will never get what your life deserves if you hold on to the things that your life doesn't deserve. What you settle for - you get.
Things change. You chose to adapt. Let's get it.
It all starts with you.