Find Your Friends
Are they really your friends?
That's a question most of us rarely want to ask. If our friendships are real, the thought that they aren't doesn't tend to cross our minds. Today's message isn't to make you paranoid—I'm not telling you to cut everybody out of your circle. Rather, I want you to think about the nature of your connections. Are the people around you there because they truly appreciate you and want you to succeed?
There are people around you who will conceal ulterior motives with good deeds. There are people who will treat you well even though they want to see you fail. There are people you consider friends who will bring you only negativity.
The purpose of today's message isn't to be disheartening or pessimistic. Rather, the freedom to realistically consider one's connections should be invigorating.
Strength is not in numbers—it's in loyalty.
Keep your circle small, because the people you let in will have close enough access to you to tear you down. I've personally been hurt by people who were close to me before, and after certain situations, it was difficult for me to learn to trust people again. It was difficult for me to give people the benefit of doubt, and it took some time for me to shake the notion that everybody was inherently bad.
The people standing next to you no matter what are the people you need to cherish.
Some people will leave when your life is at rock bottom. Some friends will stop being your friends when the going gets tough. Think about the people in your life who are there for you no matter what.
Anyone can party it up at your celebrations. Who is there for you when you're not celebrating? Who is there for you when you're going through difficulties?
The people who aren't with you to benefit from your success are the people you need to treasure. Those special people who set up the party then clean up afterward are the people you can trust.
Take a moment to evaluate your life. Take a second to think about the intentions of the people you surround yourself with.
People are generally very hesitant to cut others off. It's hard to lose friends, but in many cases, a smaller circle equates to greater loyalty. Lose the dead weight, and you'll be freeing up energy to spend on the people who truly care for you. Protect and cherish your circle, even if that means making your circle smaller. Don't settle for fair weather friends or people who are only around as benefactors of your success. When the time comes, you have to find the strength to be honest with yourself and others.
It all starts with you.