A lot of people tell me about their guilt.
People come up to me and tell me, "Trent, I feel guilty for cutting this person off." In life, self-growth unfortunately can sometimes mean growing apart from people, and leaving your former self can sometimes result in leaving people behind. Don't be sorry for being successful, and don't feel bad for cutting people off who are not benefiting you. In today's message, I want to talk about five of my essentials to avoid feeling guilty about what you shouldn't feel guilty about.
The first thing to remember is that you shouldn't feel guilty if you're changing for the better. If you are becoming a better person or you are better than you once were, don't feel bad when you leave some people behind. People will try to make you feel guilty by telling you that you've changed, and to that I say, of course you've changed! You've changed for the better, and that's something you should be proud of instead of guilty over.
The second thing I want to make clear is that you should never feel guilty for knowing your worth. If you're not getting what you deserve from someone and you end up cutting them from your life, don't feel guilty! You're better off adhering to actual standards, and a lot of people don't seem to understand this, but there is a difference between being used and being a good friend.
The third thing I want to stress today is that you shouldn't feel guilty for moving on if you know that you're moving on from a situation that was no good for you. People want to keep you in the same place, but not everyone grows in the same direction. People often grow apart when they grow, so if you feel like people are trying to keep you in the same place with the same mindset, it might be time to move on.
Number four is to never feel guilty for protecting your peace from chaos.
If there's drama, gossip, or stress in your life, don't feel guilty for removing those things. It's your life, and you deserve peace. You deserve an environment in which you can focus, and you need to eliminate drama and gossip around you, even when that means losing friends.
Finally, never feel guilty for staying loyal to your vision. This is the last but most important point I want to make in today's message. In life, your vision is the single most important thing you can focus on. I want you to evaluate the people in your life, and ask yourself if you're losing yourself and your vision to those people. If so, it might be time to lose those people, instead.
It all starts with you.
