Focus On You
Everyone wants to make a change.
In life, there are things many of us know we need to improve. However, when making large changes, we are inevitably met with opposition. The key to success is pushing through that opposition and seeing your vision till the end.
The further I got along my journey, the more it seemed things were going wrong. When I got truly started on personal self-development, I began losing more and more people.
The root of what I'm trying to get across is, change is difficult because it often feels ineffectual or even counterproductive. If you begin to make a large life change, you will be taking a huge risk. You will be risking everything you know and everything you are for something you hope is better. To anyone reading this who is going through a state of change in their lives, I have a personal message for you.
First of all, I'd like to commend you for having the courage to make that change, because many people allow the difficulties that come with transition to kill their dreams. When you're making a positive change for your life, you're not supposed to stay the same, or stay in the same place. When you make a big transition, there are going to be growing pains. If you have been weathering those difficulties and feel as if you haven't made any progress, I promise you that if you can find the strength to push onward, there will be light at the end of the tunnel.
If you stick to your plan and do what you said you would, you will make a positive change.
Be ready to make sacrifices. If you're making life moves, you're going to leave a lot of people behind. You'll have friends and even family members who won't understand why you're changing, and you'll have people in your life who show you less love because you no longer benefit them with your presence. There are a lot of people who will be upset at you or think you're selfish for changing so much, but to them I say, good riddance.
Never feel guilty for loving yourself, and stop basing progress off the reactions of others.
The people who talk badly about you and shut you out just when you start making progress aren't the people you should be trying to impress. Until you find friends who resonate with your vision and want to grow with you, the only person you need to satisfy is yourself. It's time to stop giving validation to the opinions of people who aren't interested in growing with you. Focus on yourself, and everything you feel is missing in your life will follow.
It all starts with you.