I have a choice. We all have a choice on whether or not to make life beautiful or hard and hurtful. I don't mean to sound like I'm ignoring the pain that we go through. Pain is rough, but it is in moving on and healing from this pain that we can choose to focus on something that doesn't help us. We can also choose to focus on something that heals us. It's all about not dwelling on those bad thoughts, or those "stuck in the past" kind of thoughts. We have to be more deliberate and disciplined about where our mind goes. If you start thinking about the negative things and the things that will pull down your mindset and keep you rolling in the wrong direction, stop. Think about what you're thinking about. Choose to move your thoughts to something else. Choose to move them to something more positive that will put your mind and soul in the right direction for the day. Make the choice that will heal you.
The problem is that we have programmed our self-worth on everything external. Social media, as it has grown and evolved, has set a course for us to value ourselves based on likes and attention. We are now in a constant and desperate state of striving for attention. We judge our own value based on how many followers we have, or how many comments we get on a post, or how many messages we get on Instagram. This makes it so much easier to fall into those bad thoughts, and it becomes harder to focus on the right things. It's hard to choose the beauty of this life. Trust me, I get it. It's like waking up in the morning before the sun rises when you're absolutely exhausted. It's really really hard, and it might take everything in you to make the right choice, but it's possible. It's completely possible. You have to believe that. If you can't believe that you can choose the good thoughts and a good state of mind, you have already lost. If you can just believe that if you tried hard enough and worked at it every day that you could get better, you will be able to. I promise you that.
Many times, we lose our self-worth because the things we think we should have in our life are not adding up. We think that if we were worth it, we would have a certain amount of money, a certain job, or a beautiful house and family, and without all of those, we are worthless. That is just not true. No matter how much money you have in your bank account, you can still be broken in your soul. That's just facts.
Sometimes you need to disconnect. Disconnect from whatever doesn't give you peace and fulfillment in your soul. Whether that's social media, a toxic relationship, or a job that's making you hate getting up in the morning. Start to connect to the things that connect you back to your soul. Focusing on your soul is the only thing in this life that is going to give you any real and lasting peace. Start focusing on peace.
It all starts with you.
