How To Deal With haters
This quote from Aristotle always gets me - “To avoid conflict, say nothing, do nothing, be nothing.” I love this quote because it’s so true. There’s nothing in this life that you could do that will protect you from scrutiny. Everyone has something to say. If you are going to seek greatness, there will be people there to criticize you. Think about all the greats- Jeff Bezos, Lebron James, or anyone else you see that is doing great things all have massive amounts of hate towards them.
At the end of the day, this is your life. You are going to have to fight for the dreams you have. You can no longer give power to the words of other people. Realize this- no hater can stop you without your permission. Stop giving permission. I know that most of us are so insecure that it’s easy to want to give up when someone comes and tries to knock us down. I can say that because that’s been me before too. I would get heat on the internet and let the comment section get to me. I kept letting that happen until I realized that my “why” was strong enough to fight back against the hate.
Understanding is key. When you start to understand why people are doing things, then you can stop taking it personally. The reason why people hate on you is because they are not happy. If they hate their own life, how could they be happy for yours? You can’t give what you don’t have for yourself. Let me say that again -
“You cannot give what you don’t have for yourself.”
I have never met a happy person that spends their time trying to tear down others. No such thing as a happy hater. It’s because they’re miserable. It has nothing to do with you. I hear a lot of people say “I do it for my haters.” I get that mentality but think about it this way- why would you do anything for people who couldn’t care less about you? I say you should be shifting your focus to “I do it for my supporters,” this way you are focusing on the positive and guess what- you prove your haters wrong anyways. Win, win!
Now you can take that negative energy and turn it into a positive. When haters hate, instead of it motivating you to prove them wrong, let it motivate you to work harder for your supporters. I’m not saying that this happens over night y’all, I know it’s not easy. It took me a long time under scrutiny to get to a place of not caring what people think and it’s still hard sometimes. Take a moment to think about why your haters might be feeling how they do and decide that you “why” is strong enough to push you past their opinions and into the life you are born for.
It all starts with you.