How To Pick Yourself Up
Today I've got a powerful message for everyone.
I woke up feeling extremely purposeful, and while I was on my run, I had this thought that I think could be truly lifechanging for a lot of you. I think that what you're about to read has the capability of changing your life for the better. If you are interested in healing your scars and growing in the long-term, read onward.
You can't lose yourself just because you lost something that was important to you.
We all lose things—that's a crucial and unavoidable part of being human. We lose jobs, opportunities, and most of all, we lose people we care about. It hurts to lose people, because a lot of the people who leave will be people we assume will always be there to support us.
Although that might seem pessimistic, it's just reality. People are going to leave, and opportunities are going to disappear. You might get fired from your job or dumped from your relationship. You might have a big falling out with your family members or your closest friends, and you'll feel like your whole world has shattered.
Let's be real for a second. When we lose people, we lose our faith. We often allow loss to erode our relationship with God just a little bit. We lose belief in ourselves and our abilities, because we've tied so much of ourselves to other people. If you've been in any kind of relationship at all, you understand what I'm talking about. From friendship to romance, you are going to give your heart to people without the assurance that they'll do the same for you.
Because nothing is guaranteed, loss is inevitable. How do you cope with that, you might ask?
When life sucker-punches you in the face, you're going to fall down. The only thing you have control over is whether you get up or not.
You've got to take all the love you gave to that person and direct it inward. You've got to find the strength to turn the page, even when that person you thought held the pen is missing from your life. You've got to take the pen into your own hands, and realize that you're the only one in control of your life.
When you pick yourself up off the ground, I want you to tell yourself something. I want you to say, "This is really hard right now, but I know it's just a chapter in my story. I know I can recover from this, and even learn from this. I am going to use this trial to make me a better person.
Remember, you don't lose until you give up on yourself.
It all starts with you.