Stop Focusing On the End
I want to share something that has been pretty hard for me to share.
Today's message is about changing your perspective, and I am going to be as transparent as possible. Some of us are living in prisons of our own designs, and some of us are turning our perspective into power.
A couple years back, my mom wasn't feeling well. She went to the doctor, and out of nowhere, she found out that she has stage four breast and liver cancer. It was a crazy feeling—I was the guy everyone went to for inspiration, but I couldn't find the right words to say to my own mother. Her doctors gave her six months to live if she didn't do treatment, and that verdict hit me like a freight train. I remember my mom calling me and saying, "Trent, why me?" She asked me, "Why did God allow this to happen to me?"
I said, "Mom, why not you?"
After I responded with that, my mom got quiet and asked me what I'd said. I said, "Why not you? There's a greater purpose than the pain you're currently experiencing, and I don't know if it's to show your faith, or to grow your faith, or to bring somebody else entirely closer to God, but there is a greater purpose at play here. I know this is horrible right now, but you will heal."
The next day, my mom called me crying, telling me that all her hair was falling out and that she felt ugly. She was crying and telling me that marks were appearing on her face, and I said, "Mom, I'm about to come over right now."
I took her to my barber and said, "I want you to embrace this. I want you to stop focusing on the destination so much, because you're forgetting how far you've actually come."
I told my mom, "Focus on healing every single day. You're healing when you throw up, you're healing when your hair is falling out, and you're healing when you feel like you can't even eat."
On the sixth month, the month the doctors had said my mom wouldn't be on this planet anymore, she got a report that all her cancer was gone.
None of us can escape pain. So many people die every single day, and no matter how rich or poor you are, you can't escape that. In reality, we can't stop ourselves from feeling pain, and while that may sound pessimistic at first, there's a silver lining. What matters most is the memories we leave here. Whoever's reading this right now, I have a challenge for you. Control your perspective.
Your perspective can be your power or your prison. Which one is it going to be?
It all starts with you.