How To Use Your Failures
Stop complaining about the things you aren't willing to change.
Do you want your life to count? Almost everybody alive would answer "yes" to that question, but a large fraction of those people are living unfulfilling lives. A large fraction of the people with big dreams never end up achieving those dreams, and a lot of people who truly want to be the best versions of themselves refuse to pay their dues.
What excuse are you giving yourself? Today, I went for a run. One of my biggest goals was to run a faster mile, and today, while I ran outside, I realized something beautiful. My run this morning was a race between me and my shadow. When I stopped, my shadow would stop, and when I started running again, I'd watch as my shadow's legs started moving, too.
I knew I'd never catch my shadow. The best I could do was be right behind my shadow, but no matter how fast I ran, I couldn't pass it. Watching my shadow running ahead of me inspired an important message—perfection is impossible, but the pursuit of perfection is all we've got.
A lot of us overestimate our obstacles.
We look at the roadblocks that stand between us and our goals, and we give those roadblocks the permission to keep us down. Let me tell you something—nothing can stop you without your permission. Nothing can break you down unless you let it, and there's no person on earth who can keep you down forever.
At the end of the day, you can only depend on yourself. You can't depend on the support of others, and you can't depend on anyone but you to live your life the way it should be lived. You are the one in control, and once you realize that, you can really start living.
You are going to fail time and time again, but as you fail, you are going to get closer to success. The first time you examine your goal, you might think it's impossible to achieve. If you leave it at that, then you were right—it was impossible to achieve.
However, if you try and fail at achieving your goal, you're going to change your perspective. You're going to say to yourself, "This is hard, but I can do it. This is difficult, but it isn't impossible." Eventually, that impossible goal is going to become just a few final steps forward.
Once you get to the top of that mountain, you are going to have perspective you never could have predicted. You are going to look back at all the failures that led you to your success, and you're going to be thankful for all of them. You're going to look at all your roadblocks, and you're going to see how they paved a path for your greatness.
For now? Just get to work.
It all starts with you.