We have to stop focusing on the people who don't care about us -- the people who bring us down. The hate they give does nothing to help us -- it only brings us down. When we focus on them, try to change their opinion, or worry about why they think less of us, we give them power. Stop giving them power. Many of us let the fear of being judged stop us from being great. We let that fear stop us from even trying. I always tell people, don't you know you are going to be judged anyway? Don't you know you are going to have haters anyway? They don't just disappear because you don't try anything great. In fact, not trying gives them more fuel to keep you down. No matter how bad or good things are going for you in your life, there will always be haters and naysayers that are trying to bring you down. It doesn't make a difference on their side how hard you are trying. DO NOT let that stop you.
For some reason we expect everyone to like us. We may think if we were doing everything right, if we were taking all of the right steps, everyone would like us. We think that we can hypothetically turn all of the haters over to our side, but that's just not true. Here's what is true: Hate doesn't come from happy people. Hate doesn't come from people who feel secure in themselves. Hate comes from people who are lost, people who are scared. They feel like they are not enough in their own lives but they don't want to deal with that possibility so instead they project it onto others. They have to believe that someone like you getting your life together is a sham. Because if you can get your life together, then that means it's possible for them to get theirs together as well. It points to and accentuates the fact that they just aren't trying. It's not the system. It's not that nobody can do it. It's their work ethic.
Don't let that be you. Push yourself always, and ignore the haters that tell you you can't. Remember that the haters cannot stop you if you don't give them power. If someone says how much your work sucks, you can keep going. If someone tells me how much they hate my videos or my blog, guess what? I'm still going to make my videos. I'm still going to write my vlog. When we give power to the haters we start to believe that they actually have power over us, but they don't. These people cannot stop you. Do you realize that?
Lastly, the haters don't have a valid opinion because they aren't subscribed to your life anyway. People don't subscribe to things they hate. People don't pay close attention to all the details of something they don't like. So the haters in your life have no context to make a valid opinion that should affect you anyway. Take back control, and ignore the haters.
It all starts with you.
