Don't Rush It
Don't get married.
Although today's message might step on some toes, don't shoot the messenger just yet.
Don't get married before you're ready.
Not everyone is ready to be a wife, or a husband. Not everybody is ready for a lifelong commitment, and that's perfectly fine! People tend to get wrapped up in preconceived notions about commitment, but marriage isn't going to fix your relationship, regardless of how long a couple has been together.
A ring is not the cure for a failing relationship. If the commitment isn't there, marriage won't fix that. Commitment has to come before marriage—not the other way around.
Don't get married if you're not ready yet. I don't care how old you are, or how long you've been in that failing relationship—being single isn't the end of the world. Being single and completely free of pressure is freeing. If it doesn't feel right, don't force it—being single and free to work on yourself isn't the end of the world, and it beats an abusive relationship any day of the week.
A title won't make you successful.
If you're not successful at being a boyfriend and girlfriend, what makes you think you'll be successful as a husband and wife? Don't get me wrong—marriage is great! Marriage is incredible, but that ring isn't magic. That ring isn't what makes marriage work, or a relationship work—love is. That ring isn't going to fix all your problems, so stop thinking about the ring, and stop thinking about marriage! If that person is really right for you, sealing the deal through marriage is something that will happen when the time comes. Marriage isn't a tool to fix broken relationships; I cannot stress that enough. It breaks my heart to see people suffer as they strive to save bad relationships with a ring.
Are you and your partner really ready?
As I've said time and time again, you have only one life to live. Are you satisfied with the level you've achieved while single? Are you with someone you know you can grow with?
Don't get me wrong—marriage is incredible, and it's something that allows good relationships to be taken to the next level. There are plenty of amazing relationships out there, but for every great one, a bad one exists. Divorce is at an all time high, but that doesn't speak to the failure of marriage—it speaks to the failure of individual relationships.
Don't insist on marriage if neither of you are ready. Don't settle for a bad relationship because fostering a great one takes so much work. Be realistic with yourself, and you'll create an environment perfect for growth, with or without your significant other.
It all starts with you.