Learn How To Love Yourself
Today I want to talk to you guys about what it truly means to love yourself and what I mean when I tell you that you need to love yourself. I know that we talk about relationships a lot in some of my lives on instagram or on facebook, and a lot of times you will hear that “God’s delay is not always his denial,” but it is also important to remember that sometimes a good reason for delay in a relationship is if you or the other person has trouble loving themselves and one or both of you are terrified of what it might mean to love someone else. So in our lives for a lot of us we are constantly trying to fix ourselves by entering into a new relationship. We hear the phrases about how someone else will complete us and we decide that means that we should enter into a relationship specifically because we do not feel whole. I think there is a major problem with this state of mind.
I am a huge believer in coming into a relationship already completed. I do not mean that you need to have every personal problem of yours fixed before you can enter a relationship with someone, because if that were the case then nobody should ever be in a relationship. What I mean is that you should have your life relatively together before getting into a relationship because you should not give someone else the responsibility of ordering your life on top of their own. They will not be able to do it. Plain and simple. When you enter into a relationship and expect the other person to complete you then you are giving them a task that is too much for them and they will let you down. The other person in a relationship with you was never meant to complete you. You two can complement each other and help each other to continue to grow in your life, but if you feel incomplete then the best option would be to work on yourself, not to get in a relationship.
A lot of us come into relationships expecting to fix what happened in our previous relationship where we learned to hate ourselves and that is also not fair to the other person. You have to learn to love yourself before you can jump into a serious relationship because the other person in your relationship will not be able to carry all of the weight and personal responsibilities that you should be working on. If you want to be able to fully love someone else you need to first work on learning how to love yourself truly. If you push the hate you have for yourself onto someone else then the relationship will be doomed from the start. So stop telling yourself that someone else is going to fix you, and learn to love who you are.
It all starts with you.