Let Go of Control
No matter what you receive in this life, there will still be pain.
Let me tell you something: You might have worked truly hard for something, and you might have worked so hard you ended up achieving it. That thing you accomplished built your confidence up and showed you that if you put in the work and stay committed to your vision, you can do anything. While I congratulate you for your effort, I've got some bad news: Your struggles aren't over just because you've achieved a few victories. The road is hard and it never stops being hard.
People are consumed by social media these days. People watch these celebrities online and let themselves be spoon-fed a false dream. Don't buy into the hype—although this might sound pessimistic at first, the following truth has the potential to be an incredible force for positive growth in your life.
You need to appreciate the bad.
When you go through something difficult, you need to appreciate it for the learning experience it truly is. Everything changes when you learn to appreciate everything that you have been given. You'll realize that you have everything that you need.
You might be saying, "Trent, are you really telling me to make light of the horrible things in my life?"
Yes, I absolutely am.
You don't know what the bad is going to produce, and I am telling you to appreciate the losses in your life because they are the forces setting you up to win.
It's hard to appreciate the storms in your life, but you've got to find that gratitude. You've got to learn to let go of control, and that's not easy for anyone!
We crave control every day of our lives, and one thing you've got to understand is that wasting your time on what you can't control frees up a lot of time to focus on what you can.
You can influence things through your work ethic, through your consistency, through your education, and through your loyalty to your vision. You can influence your life for the better and get closer and closer to achieving your dreams, but you're not really in control of making anything happen.
I know that might sound super demotivating, but the sooner you stop being a control freak, the sooner you can set up a realistic framework on how to better yourself and your life. The sooner you let go of false control, the sooner you can start focusing on the real and the concrete. The sooner you realize the space your domain encompasses, the sooner you can live like a monarch.
It all starts with you.