Are you going to waste your life in pain? What good does it do you or anyone else for you to sit and sulk in your sorrow? I’m not trying to be insensitive but some of you need to hear this. Some of you know that it is time to move on but you are holding on to the pain. You are holding onto the pain that you know because it feels safer than the future that you don’t know.
We all lose people. I just buried my mom and it was the hardest thing I’ve ever had to do. Here’s the truth though- the way that you can honor the lives you lost is by living yours. Ask yourself, do you think that they would want to be the reason that you gave up your dreams? Do you think that they would want to be the reason that you lost yourself? Do you think that they would want to be the reason that you don’t take care of yourself anymore? No. Of course not. I’m not saying that it is easy. I know that it is hard, but you must move on. The world needs you. Your people need you.
Some of you have kids that depend on you. Some of you have friends that depend on you. You can’t live a life of regret. No matter how hard it is to choose to live above the pain, you must do it. You can live a life of regret or a life of rejoice. When you start to think about the regret of the times you wish you “would have,” turn that phrase in to “I’m glad that I did have.” You have to force yourself to focus on the things that you are thankful for having with those that are gone. This is how you honor them. They knew your heart, they knew that you loved them. And you can continue to love them and honor them by living a life worth living.
Become what they were to you but to those who need you most. Be the influence that they were to you, but to your kids, your partner and your friends. This is how you honor them. This is how you move forward. This is how you turn death into life, and life into purpose. I want the best for you and they would want the best for you too. It’s time to start living your life. Let it hurt, then let it go. I believe in you.
It all starts with you.
