Live Your Life
I want to talk to you guys about living your life to your full potential. For that to be possible, you have to be hungry. You have got to seek out different ways to heal past your wounds you have collected over the years. You have got to start thinking about what you can do to heal. Who can you surround yourself with? Who can you ask for help? Who can you ask to pray for you? How can you change your environment to a situation that will allow you to heal as you need to? You have to ask yourself these questions over and over again to avoid falling into a cycle of victimization and victimhood mentality.
Of course there are certain things in our lives that just are not going to heal like all of the rest. You know, I truly believe that the loss of a close friend or a close family member leaves a whole in your heart that can't just be filled. It's extremely hard to lose someone. Believe me, I know. The thing is though, you can still live your life in the wake of all of these traumas and tragedies. For example, I lost one of my best friends to suicide. I still miss him every single day, but I know in my heart that he inspired me to do what I do today and he wouldn't want me sitting around and doing nothing but feeling his loss for the rest of my life. He would want me to live it. Even when I am doing all of this motivational work I think about him. It is like I feel a piece of him inside of me because he inspired me to do it. I don't forget him when I move on. I can "move on" but still carry him with me on my journey. He stays alive through me.
The same thing can be said about my grandfather and grandmother. When they passed, I mourned their life and I celebrated their life, but now they live on through me because I chose to continue to get up and work hard each and every day in honor of their memory. That's how you allow someone to inspire you even after their gone, instead of letting the trauma of losing them keep you from living your life. I remember before my grandmother passed, I asked her what was most important and meaningful to her about life and she said she just wished that she had more time to connect with the people around her that she loved in her life. So I take that as a word of advice and now I make it a constant goal and reminder to spend as much time with the people around me as I possibly can. In that way my grandmother lives on through me. Everytime I share the messages that come from the fundamentals of life that my grandmother taught me, she continues to live on through me.
Whatever you do, don't stop living your life. When tragedy strikes we've got to learn to heal and allow the good to flow through us.
It all starts with you.