What you continue to accept without repercussions will continue to take place.
It's time to draw a line in the sand and cut toxic people out of your life. I know this might sound harsh. This might sound cold, but it's the healthiest way for you to grow. Some people respond to this advice by saying that toxic people need help too, but toxic people can't be helped unless they truly want to be helped. A lot of people just don't want to be helped. They want to continue to feed off of you and your toxic relationship.
Sometimes it's not even about the person specifically. Like maybe there's not really anything wrong with them, and maybe there's nothing wrong with you either - or at least nothing toxic, but for whatever reason the dynamic between you and this person has become toxic. It's still important to cut those people out when the relationship has gone bad. It may seem cold, but it's truly what is best for the both of you.
Take time to believe in yourself from now on. Stop relying on toxic people to make you feel valuable. You need to make you feel valuable. Now believe me I know that believing in yourself can be incredibly hard at times. Especially when you have people in your life who tell you how much they don't believe in you. But for you, in your own mind, belief is about a choice. You have got to choose to believe in yourself. It's like I always say, you're always one choice away from a new beginning. Make that choice. Start that new beginning.
People make time for what they have made their priority. A lot of people make immediate gratification their priority, or they make fast food their priority, or they make having a boyfriend or a girlfriend their priority so they settle when they can't find someone good enough for them. It's time to make you your priority.
Making yourself your priority looks harsh from time to time. Sometimes you'll lose friends who benefitted from the old you that was weak or a pushover. They won't like to see you stand up for yourself. They won't like to see you cutting out certain things or people from your life because they don't have their own priorities in order. There's nothing worse than seeing someone who's putting their life together when you haven't even started that journey. But it's okay to lose people like that from your life. People will come and go, but you don't want to hold onto someone just because you're afraid of being cold or just because you think you can't lose someone you've known for a long time. Toxic people are toxic no matter how long you've known them. You've got to let go of the thing that's biting you. Don't be so afraid of being alone. Begin to feel comfortable with yourself. Begin to believe in yourself. Begin to invest in yourself. And make that choice to start your new beginning.
It all starts with you.
