When you start winning in your life, making changes, and becoming happier, there will be people who come alongside you, support you, and be happy and inspired for you, but don't be surprised if your growth makes your circle smaller. There will be people that do not want to see you happy, or that resent your successes. When people start to see your evolution and your journey move forward, they may start to develop the "what about me disease," as I like to call it. It's not easy for most people to be proud of your new relationships or proud of your new winnings without wanting a piece of the attention too.
They will typically move away from you because they can't handle that. They may find a new group of friends that make them feel comfortable with their current state, and that's okay. You don't have to feel like you did anything wrong because you didn't. You picked yourself up and started to change your life for the better, and that is what you were always supposed to do! That's what you have been telling them since day one, and that's what we are here to do. We are here to make our lives better and make changes, but when you start to actually do it, that's when that jealousy comes up. You will start to lose people. That's a part of growth -- you will have to leave people behind, especially when you both come from the same place and started at the same level and they see that you are doing something with your life. It can make them really uncomfortable.
When someone shows you love, take a good look at them and see if they are really truly happy for you. See if they are proud of your grind and your success or do they have pain in their face when they say it. A real friend celebrates all their circle's successes even if the attention is not on them at the time. They will either be silent or they may jump in the conversation with "I see you grinding, I see you working and I'm happy for your success." Pay attention to those celebrations from your friends. If they can't be happy for you when things start to go your way, they shouldn't be there to see you at the top. Plain and simple. You'll notice that not everyone who is around you is really there for you. It doesn't make them a bad person, it just means that they have insecurities.
Don't ever feel guilty for putting in the work or for taking your life to the next level. Don't feel guilty for your growth. When your circle shrinks, just know that it says more about them than it does about you. They are going to find new circles that don't remind them of what they could be doing if they put in the work. You've got what it takes to start to elevate. Let those who can't stick with that fade away. It will narrow down your true circle.
It all starts with you.
