I’m gonna be real with you for a minute. Some of you need to hear this more than others. There are way more than five types of people that will ruin your life out there but I want to discuss these following five.
- The user
The User is an obvious one but an important one to note. These are the people that have you around purely for what it is you offer to them. Maybe that’s fame or status, maybe it’s your money or your beauty. Maybe it’s something as simple as your kindness. I’m not telling you to avoid being kind to people but there are those kinds of people that will not return the kindness back to you. They will drain you of your patience because it makes them feel better to pull someone one behind them that builds them up while they string you along.
- The complainer
We all know someone like this in our lives. The Complainer is the person that is always stuck in the same mode of thinking. The person that continues to add a negative perspective to every conversation. This kind of person will slowly and surely attack your peace of mind and suck the life right out of you. It’s not your job to build this person up. It’s not your job to try and show them the positive side of life. I’m not telling you to avoid empathizing with people, and we all complain at some times. That’s okay. I’m talking about the kind of person that is consistently dedicated to complaining about aspects of their life that they could change if they put in the effort. It’s okay to be up front with these people and let them know that their negativity is weighing you down. They may even appreciate the honesty, but if they don’t- you have an obligation to protect your peace.
- The Blamer
Have you ever been in a dynamic with someone where you constantly feel the need to apologize? The Blamer is the person that fixates their pain and resentments on the people around them so that they do not have to solve the problems in their life on their own. You’ll find when you are around The Blamer that the problem always somehow stems from something they associate with you, even if you had no part in it. Some of you have a lot of these people in your life and they are bad news. Take responsibility for the actions in your life but there is no reason to take on false blame from others. Cut them loose.
- The Competitor
This one is an interesting one. I am not discouraging friendly competition or healthy competition. The Competitor wants to watch you succeed but only to watch you succeed up to a certain level. If you pass them in reality or even in their mind then their competitive nature trumps over their friendship for you. There is nothing wrong with competitive nature but there is a difference between healthy competition and pushing one another to the best of your abilities and the competition that drives someone to stop the growth of another for their own interests.
- The Abuser
Sadly, this might be the most common. Think long and hard about the people in your life and make sure that you don’t have this kind of person in your circle or if you do, make sure that you have set proper boundaries with them. Abusers are not always physical abusers, oftentimes it is a mental or emotional abuse. This kind of abuse is subtle and tough to recognize at times. It’s a power driven desire to “keep you in your place,” or so to speak. These Abuser types will try and make you feel small or incapable of proper decision making skills. They belittle you into thinking that the world doesn’t need you as much as it actually does. This gives them the opportunity to be “the only one who will accept you for who you are.” These people are dangerous.
Keep a careful eye on the friends you keep, I can’t stress this enough. You have to fight for your peace. It’s rehab time.
It all starts with you.
