Prioritize Your Peace
I am truly of the opinion that when you actually know who you are on a deep level, you will love who you are. If you do not love who you are, you must not truly know yourself. I believe that knowing your worth and how valuable you are is one of the most important truths for human beings to understand. If you do not know your worth, you cannot properly be kind to people, you can't properly help people because all of those things will be slightly given in order to receive "worth" from them in return for your kindness or your help. When you know your worth, you can be more confident in yourself and more vibrant and kind to other people in your life.
I have gotten a lot of messages from people reaching out to me about how guilty they feel for removing a toxic person from their life. I know a lot of people will try to make you feel guilty for taking people out of your life because you are not having grace. Let me tell you something: There is a difference between not having grace for others and having self respect for yourself. You should never feel guilty for prioritizing peace in your life. This is not to say that I don't believe in second chances because I do. I believe in multiple chances for people who mess up if they are truly sorry and they are working to get better. There is a difference, though, between people who mess up around you and someone who is toxic for you. There can be times in your life where a person isn't even necessarily toxic as a person but the relationship between you and them is toxic. It is still important to cut that off because toxicity is not something that just mends over time. When you allow toxicity in your life it only grows and gets worse with time.
Just because people try to make you feel wrong doesn't mean that you did something wrong. There is nothing wrong with deciding not to tolerate nonsense in your life anymore. There is nothing wrong with being sick and tired of being sick and tired and deciding to have respect for yourself in who you allow yourself to be close with.
Peace should be number one in your life. If you don't have peace you become a worse version of yourself. If you don't have peace then you will start to be more irritable and stressed with the people around you. If you don't cut out toxic people from your life then you are not demonstrating that you know your worth. If you don't know your worth then you can't have peace, and if you don't have peace then you will slowly become the person you have always resented. You will become the toxic person that someone else needs to get out of their life. For your own sake and for the sake of the people around you, put your peace first, and know your worth.
It all starts with you.