Respect Yourself First
My tagline has always been "It all starts with you."
Today, I'm going to start this post with that tagline, because the message I'd like to get across is that we all set the tone for our lives.
In life, we teach others how to treat us. Ultimately, it comes down to how you treat yourself—if you demand self-respect, you will teach others to respect you as well. Don't let people walk all over you! Don't let people abuse you, and don't let people demand undeserved respect from you. It's easy for anyone to sit on the couch making excuses and blaming other people for our problems.
Although those excuses are often completely valid, it's crucial to remember that at the end of the day, we all need to take personal responsibility.
If you want to move forward, then move forward! If you want to feel valued, value yourself. When you're beginning your journey, not everyone will see your greatness, and even fewer will understand your vision. If you are on the less-beaten path, you will not find much external validation for a long time! If you are on the right path, people will try to walk over you.
Let me tell you something: Nobody can do anything to you without your permission.
What do you tolerate? What are you putting up with in life that you shouldn't be? Every moment you spend tolerating abuse or disrespect from people is a moment you're teaching those people to continue walking all over you!
This is true in many facets of life, from personal relationships to professional relationships. My message today isn't to be rude to people—it's to know your worth. At the end of the day, you can't really blame other people for devaluing you if you devalue yourself. You can't expect others to know your worth if you don't actively know your worth.
We teach people how to treat us, so don't complain about situations you've put yourself in. Remember—you have the power! Respect yourself, and the respect of others will follow.
When you feel broken down, pick yourself back up. When you feel like a failure, you've got to pick yourself up and learn from that failure rather than wasting time biting the dust. When you lose a person, a possible victory, or an opportunity, pick yourself up! Don't let the inevitable negativities in life erode your self-respect. Use everything that tries to break you to make you stronger!
Be yourself, unapologetically, or you'll regret it later. Self-respect is freedom, and it's built on an individual basis. Remember, no one can give you self-respect! No one can give you your power—it's something you've got to discover for yourself.
It all starts with you.