Some Bridges Need To Be Burned
Every time I speak I speak from the rehab process. The rehab process consists of the three "R"s: Reality, Release, Repair. Today we are going to talk about release. Why is release so important? It is because of simply this: You cannot expect to get to new destinations carrying the same baggage from before in your life when you were in pain or when you were struggling. Because I am going to tell you right now, when you get to this "new place" and you unpack those bags then those bags are going to come with the same problems as they had before. This is a lot like when you try to get into a new relationship before you have fully healed from your last relationship. If you do that then you will be bringing the same bags that kept you down during your last relationship. You have to be willing to let go of the past to welcome in the future. If you can't let go of the past then you will never be able to advance on into the future.
Now a lot of people will tell you that you should not burn bridges and I want to be clear that I believe in that somewhat. I believe that you should not just burn bridges because you had a disagreement with someone. I believe that you should not burn bridges just because you didn't see eye to eye on something. But sometimes it is necessary to burn bridges when they are only leading you into destructive things that are not good for you in your life with who you want to become. There will always be people in your life that care about you and want to see you succeed more than anything, but there will also be people in your life that really do not want to see you succeed and when you do they will try to drag you down. These are the people that offer a cigarette to someone who is trying to quit. These are the people that try to keep you from being better because that would remind them of how they haven't been able to do that.
You see, for a lot of people who drag others down, they do it because your success reminds them of their lack of success. When you don't succeed you can blame it on the rest of the world, or that a certain success is just impossible so why try. But when you succeed in that then you blow right through their argument and that makes them feel bad. That problem leaves them with two options: Work hard to get better and meet you at your level or drag you back down to their level. The last one is a whole lot easier than working hard to achieve what you are.
When it comes to people like this, sometimes the only smart thing you can do is let them go and burn that bridge. When you do that might just be what is best for both you and the person you are cutting off.
It all starts with you.