Perception is everything until reality gets exposed.
A few weeks ago my son came to me to ask if he could go play with some friends outside. The problem was I knew how bad his room looked at the time. It wasn't just a mess, it looked like a hurricane had hit this room. I knew that cleaning it would take anywhere from forty-five minutes to an hour at least. My son didn't put up much of a fight when I told him he had to take care of his room first. The weird thing that stuck out to me was when he came back after like fifteen minutes to go outside and play. I started thinking either my son is just a total beast at cleaning and like maybe this is his calling... or something's up. When I went up to his room everything looked clean to me at first, but then I started thinking about what I used to do when I was his age and I had to clean my room. So I knew just where to look. Sure enough, when I looked under his bed I found ninety percent of the mess crushed up in the corner. After that I checked the closet and found the other ten percent. Long story short I got him back to properly clean his room.
So why do I tell this story? Well, it's important to illustrate a problem a lot of us have when it comes to our lives and social media. We see so much mess and so much work in our lives or our careers so we try to hide it instead of dealing with it. We fabricate this clean room to our followers so they can believe that we are famous or gorgeous all of the time or that we have problemless lives, while the real mess sits stinking under the bed.
The first thing we've got to do is acknowledge the mess. We've got to be real with the people around us, or the people who follow us. It's completely normal to have mess in our lives. Stop trying so hard to pretend you don't. Embrace humility and admit when you've got a mess going on. When I started speaking I used to have crowds of five people - or even less sometimes. The answer for me was not to post on social media and pretend that I spoke to roaring crowds. The answer was to be upfront and stop trying so hard to be fake.
The biggest issue I've seen from this fake aesthetic culture on social media is that we've lost our humility. If I could give you one piece of advice to take from this post it would be this: take the opportunity that presents itself to you - especially in the beginning when you're starting out. Sometimes you'll work for exposure even though you're working a lot, or sometimes you'll speak to a crowd of five. Accept where you are and know that any mountain you choose to climb always starts at the bottom. You can't begin in the middle, or at the top. You just have to accept humility, stop hiding your mess, and climb.
It all starts with you.